Urban Tribes | Ethan's Top Five

Ethan's Top Five Guidelines to Dating within Your Urban Tribe:

1. If you're new to the group, avoid dating anyone, at least for a while. If those in the group suspect you are only there to poach partners, you'll likely get a cool reception.

2. Make sure you're serious. Bad feelings that follow a brief romance can put deep stress on a group of friends. Finding true love is worth the risk of dating a friend, but getting laid is not. If you are looking for short-term romance, do everyone a favor and find it somewhere else.

3. Let the group in on the secret sooner rather than later. Someone is going to find out and it might as well be you who spreads the news.

4. Make time for individual friendships. Disappearing into a romantic relationship can be particularly hurtful if the couple was formed within the group.

5. Don't let any friend tell you that dating within the group is "against the rules." Finding love is a risky and messy business. While friends may be sad that inter-group romances make relationships more complicated, forging a friendship into a long-term romance is worth the risk.

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More on the above topic can be found in chapter 8: "Love Versus The Tribe."

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