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Ethan's Top Five Ways To Introduce A New Romantic Partner To Your Tribe:
1. Don't bring him or her around too soon. Allow the new relationship to grow solid before you throw your new partner into the maw of tribe activities.
2. Don't assume that your fantastic group of friends will make you more attractive to your potential mate. Remember, your friends look different to you than they will to the person you are wooing. While you might be comfortable with all of your friends, your new amour may feel as if a panel of French figure-skating judges is rating his or her looks and actions.
3. Assume your new romantic interest will feel some jealousy about your devotion to your friends. Within any urban tribe there is an ambient charge of sexual energy which comes from a mixture of old crushes and years of platonic touching and easy physical intimacy. It's your job to assure you new squeeze that the group is not a threat to your burgeoning relationship.
4. Don't take your group's opinion as the last word on the value of your new relationship. Friends can give important insights on the strengths and weaknesses of your romance, but remember that they are not impartial observers. If you're in a single's tribe, your friends may not want to "lose you" to a serious romance.
5. Don't cut your friends off. Remember, you'll need them if things go south between you and the new love of your life.
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More on the above topic can be found in chapter 8: "Love Versus The Tribe."
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